S2 E3 • 34 minutes
Hugo Toovey on his ‘miracle baby’ after surviving two cancers
- Health conditions and disability
In this episode, we chat with Matthew Zukowski — host of the Where’s Your Head At? podcast and former Love Island contestant — about finding out he was infertile in his early 20s, long before fatherhood was front of mind. Matt opens up about the shock of being told he had no sperm count, finding out he has undecended testes as a child and the complicated emotions that surfaced around the diagnosis. He also reflects on masculinity, dating with an infertility diagnosis and using his platform to talk openly about men’s fertility.
Episode highlights
- Matt found out he’s infertile after a girlfriend made an offhand comment about his semen and it prompted him to get tested
- He was born with undescended testes, had surgery as a baby, and was told he should check his fertility around age 25
- He talks honestly about the masculinity hit: His first reaction is “what a man’s meant to do is have kids”
- Being public about infertility has become part of his coping: using his platform to normalise it, hearing from other men with similar histories, and feeling less alone through community
- Infertility has become something people “already know” about him and comes up while dating
- Becoming a stepdad to his ex-wife’s children helped him realise parenting isn’t only biological, and he’s kept space for multiple futures — sperm retrieval, donor sperm, adoption, stepkids, nieces/nephews
- His learning is that infertility is not your fault, it’s not a “problem” that defines you — it’s a complication you can face, talk about, and make a plan around
Appearing in this episode
Matt Zukowski
Matt Zukowski is a content creator, model and former Love Island star who co-hosts the podcast “Where’s Your Head At?”, offering insights into relationships, laughter, and advice from both gender perspectives.
Dr Tim Moss (Host)
Tim is Healthy Male’s Health Content Manager and a biomedical scientist with expertise in male reproductive health, translating complex medical evidence into clear, practical advice for men.
